If You Want To Be Free And In Love

Today we explore the topic of choosing freedom and love and the ways in which we can devote ourselves to what we bump up against along the way.

Embracing and accepting the unraveling we feel inside discomfort. 

We can’t pick and choose what we feel if we really want to feel anything at all. I share my poem, “Great Dark Wing,” from The Reach Is (W)holy.

Will you find a way to choose yourself when intensity and discomfort arrive? How will you stand at the edge of yourself? 

I share a personal experience—a time when I was trying to abandon myself and my emotions wouldn’t let me. 

TO LONG IS TO FEEL AND OUR FEELINGS ARE ALWAYS LONGING FOR US.

Fleshing out the idea that those we love and are in relationship with need us to need to want ourselves first. 

Ways we can bring in some extra support while feeling our longing and embracing our whole hearts.

Creating a whole heart “toolkit”

The medicine of essential oils and how they truly can shift and open us body, heart, mind, nervous system, and spirit. Of course, this is not a substitute for psychotherapy or medical attention. It is an example of a powerful way I have personally been supported. Having a whole heart toolkit helps provide our whole selves with an opportunity to heal and come into balance. How do you call in extra support? Friends, moving your body, meditation, play, rest? How do you nourish yourself with “food for the soul?”

Make a list of what you truly long for—this is a way to build relationship with the “bumps” and edge of your life. This list can include anything at all...your vision, a passion project, a grief calling you, a loss, an anger, an interruption—all of these are examples of what longs for us and how we can come into a state of belonging. Making contact with these things, that we might tend to turn away from, can bring the whole self, the whole heart, into balance. 

Inviting it all in (even the willingness to do so) is freedom and a fierce act of love. 

Each “bump” can lead us closer to love or further away from it. Curiosity about it can create a healing story.

May you know that you are sacred. This moment is ceremony. And you get to live your wildly naked truth.